Country boy in the big city: friends

A huge advantage of living in a small village is that your friends who you went to school and college with are no more than 20 minutes away from you.

*Cue massive shake up as life at university kicks off*

Unless you are fortunate enough to find yourself at a university where your friends are also going to be for the next three years, it seems like a scary and intimidating prospect. You might see a girl who was in one of your media lessons once or a lad who used to live down the road from you but for the most part, the start of uni is a chance for a fresh start but a daunting experience.

While you will have points over the first few months where you will miss your friends and you will of course have made the ‘don’t come and visit me, leave it two months for me to settle in’ rule, you will undoubtedly find yourself calling them a lot over the course of that time. While you might not realise at the time, this is a mini ‘I can’t do this’ breakdown.

Everyone will go through this stage at some point over their time at university and I found that previously spending every day with my best friends before and after college was just holding me back at the start of my time in Lincoln.

However, there comes a point where you realise everyone is of course in the same boat and while some of your flat mates might not be your friends forever, you must embrace what you have and make a real go of the situation.

That doesn’t mean go out with your flat and get so drunk you end the night by singing ‘Don’t go breaking my heart’ in front of a group of mortified audience members, it just means you have to jump at any opportunity to spend time with them.

While this is going on, little do you realise that two months has elapsed and your friends from back home want to see what Lincoln has to offer in terms of night life.

Coming from a small village is also an advantage in nightlife terms too. This is mainly because all you have to beat is a rundown old club in the town down the road and a takeaway in the taxi on the way home.

The build up to your friends coming to visit you is one that mixes excitement and fear. Not fear because they’ll break all your furniture or throw up on your bed, a fear that they might not get on with your newly made university friends.

Your mind is put at ease when you introduce your two sets of friends, like you are some form of social catalyst that is trying to become the glue that will hold your two groups together for the duration of their stay.

After a few drinking games and the prize of insults from both sets of friends for been this new social catalyst, you realise you have settled into university well and you have some great friends around you.

Remember, if you’re feeling this way, it means that everyone else around you will also be feeling this way.

The only obstacle facing you now is carrying your drunken friend home from the club after they power down six Jagerbombs and hit the Cha Cha Slide too vigorously.


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